Marriage can bring you closer, but think of the life 24X7 you are going to spend with your partner after it. It's not all rosy as you presume. Even the most romantic, altruistic couples face everyday botheration. To escape yourself from phrases like "I never knew you were this....", "I thought you liked...". Reading between the lines is a gone-habit of marriage life. Everything is out in the open, frankness prevails. This blog entry deals with what you should get cleared before you land on a wedlock.
[The questions suit only South Indians who have not given up on tradition to some extent}
1. Family has a problem with me working after marriage?
Assuming that your partner is fine with you working long hours after wedding. The problem starts when your parents-in-law have a say in your career. Having heard ridiculous stories like as a Marumagal handing over your ATM card to your m-i-l and getting pocket money from her, its nonsensical and gets you in knee deep problems once you decide to work.
2. Are you an alcoholic and a smoker?
Because alcohol can kill your private time together. Though social drinking maybe excusable, watch out for alcohol ladies... It cringes your life and leaves no room for happiness. Most divorce-worthy problems start with alcohol.
3. What is your idea of entertainment?
Here I don't mean TV. All forms of entertainment which you are ready spend a little from your earnings. After work, you are likely to spend time together, so its better to know the likes and dislikes of your partner. Week-ends and vacation can come under this topic. You should be able to work out some plans that will please each other. It may also come in handy to surprise him with little gifts.
4. Do you partake in house-hold domestic chores?
If the answer is no, you may as well take a step backward, because the twenty first century girls may get all worked up with their never-ending chores with no one to help. But he may eventually come around when there are needs.
5. If we have children, would you play the mommy role at times?
There is a long list of the roles mommy plays in a child's life such as, teacher, care-taker(does potty), launderer, cook, counselor, etc. Hope the life partner may cover some of these roles to do better parenting. Check my blogentry http://ramyajp.blogspot.in/2017/03/tips-for-young-dads-to-please-new.html.
6. Have you been in a relationship before?
The most dreaded question, yet it may least matter when your partner is forgetful of the past and is ready for a new beautiful life with you, unless the old partner has left a huge hole to fill in. On a funny note, there are risks in this scenario such as naming one child after that ex-gf...[Like how Catelyn Stark named Brandon Stark after her ex]
Always things can turn around during the course of your marriage and make you contented or leave you disgruntled. Remember a successful marriage stems from forgiveness. But if you are way too forgiving and forgetting, then you may end up in an indifferent life with your partner. That is awful than you can imagine, you may think its better off fighting for what you want than silence.
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